To walk in another’s shoes is understanding how the person is, but to switch those shoes to wear a different one every day, is just plain selfishness,” says Krithika Vanamali of the 12th grade, while talking of accessorised relationships. Ouch. Quite the statement to make about the status quo we observe in many relationships that seem to appear and disappear every now and then.
It’s said that diamonds are a girl’s best friend; wrong, my friend. Girls like the guys anyway! With the only difference being that they ‘turn’ them into something equivalent to diamonds. Surprised? It’s a development that has occurred with the gen next; where girls tend to accessorise boys. Do the guys have a say in the matter? Not really… not if he’s the guy who’s in for a fling or a short relationship, or a matter of pride versus “I feel lonely.” Now that’s personal opinion; but the real issue here is the fact that girls are focusing more on themselves rather than the guy, and as indicated by the quote above, are approving of such a selfish act.
“Well, it depends on the girl you’re talking about…” Girls, leaving that argument out, we know we’ve got a problem here. Whether it’s the shy 9th grader or the ditsy 12th grader, you have girls who want fame and success at a younger age; making the idea of ‘image’ and popularity come out more vividly. Societal norms getting more open, doesn’t seem to help the situation and the carefree gen next. Besides, experimenting seems so much more fun, doesn’t it? In my opinion, guys and girls seem to follow this trend and sadly, look more for a certain physical satisfaction rather than a mutual understanding. Not like it offends us ‘old’ minded people. We’re just hoping you get a life and move on from the idea that guys or girls could be accessorised like pieces of jewellery.
The writer is a grade
12 student at Kodaikanal International School