There are times when we all feel the need for someone who can reassure us that we are alright. We’ve all been there. Wrong friends are picked before the right ones come along. Loved a person too much and then been betrayed. After going through the pain of losing someone close, I have learnt that learning to look forward to the next hello instead of focussing on the last goodbye helps to let go.
I’ve never found the desire to have friends around me thanks to my sister. Nevertheless, I have made many friends over the past two year that she has been staying in a hostel. I have comprehended life’s meaning and its teachings on trust and its value. When I am let down by one of them, I try to avoid losing my temper as much as I can. I plug in my earphones and listen to my favourite music in ear deafening decibel levels and I have to admit, it’s the closest I get to relief. Food and family during these times are nothing except healthy cheer. It’s not about having tons of friends around to share a smile, share food or exchange hugs out of joy. It’s when you have too many people around and still seek a ear to listen to you, a shoulder to cry on and a heartwarming hug that you know you don’t have anyone to rely on.
When I lose a friend, I willingly make myself believe that I have gained something. It’s when I lose a friend that I become wiser in making the next one. My choice of friends, more often than not, has done good for me. For each time I have lost one, I have learnt that there are better people out there, I just can’t see them for now. I realise that sometimes we love more than we need to, and it’s nothing less than victory if you’ve learnt to let go. After all, a bond fragile enough to break isn’t going to be worth gripping on to.
The writer is a student of Little Flower Junior College.