Losers in love bond over heartbreak

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Two broken hearts can offer each other a ready shoulder to cry on and the bond of heartbreak can help two people pull through a traumatic break-up, say many young love birds. They are taking their cue from Bollywood stars helping one another through the ordeal of failed relationships. Heartthrob pairs like Deepika Padukone, Ranbir Kapoor, Priyanka Chopra and Shahid Kapoor have shown how to come out smiling despite a split.

Deepika has reportedly grown close to Shahid Kapoor after breaking up with Ranbir Kapoor and Priyanka and Ranbir are  good friends now.
Psychologists say two broken hearts can mend and blend into a healthy relationship as it helps them understand better each other.
Kavya Thomas, a communications student says she did not want to enter a relationship after she broke up with her boyfriend a year ago. But her friend introduced her to someone who had undergone a similar separation. “We became close friends and we realised we had a lot in common, more so since we underwent similar heartbreak. We got to know each other well and we got into a strong relationship. It’s been more than six months now and we value our companionship.”
Prathik R., an engineering student, echoes this after he played Cupid to a friend, who was depressed after an emotionally wrenching break-up. Prathik helped him meet another schoolmate who had broken up with her boyfriend. “We got them together and now they have become very close friends. Earlier my friend kept talking about his former girlfriend and he would feel low. But now he doesn’t utter a her name because he knows he is not the only one who suffered such a traumatic experience.”   
Dr Manoj, psychologist says the heartbroken gravitate towards each other. “They prefer sharing sad stories with those who have faced similar situations themselves. Later this builds into something deeper. As they have already suffered break-ups, they would want to avoid incidents that happened earlier with their loved ones,” he says.
However, student Madhav Menon an architect student says negative baggage from the past can often be brought up when the couple fight. “This creates a lot of unpleasantness. It happened to a friend of mine. After they got into a relationship, whenever they fight, both of them bring up the other’s past. They keep fighting and don’t try to understand.”

Shreesha S. Reddy
 The Asian Age