Every relationship has a purpose in our life

Sep 01, 2013 - Anupam Kher |

Age Correspondent

I am a 21-year-old woman. I belong to a middle class family. My parents are the best parents in this world. They love me unconditionally. I am in a relationship since the last four years with a man who is from a different caste and is also financially backward compared to us. But I trust him and I know that once he settles down, I will be happy with him. I just don’t know how to convince my parents. Can you please help me?
Nivedita

A. Well Nivedita, I respect relationships, whether the one you share with a friend, the person you love and the one you have with your parents. Every relationship has a purpose in our life and each of these people contribute to our life and make it better. However, when we choose to bring children into the world, we need to look at life differently. Healthy family equations, security, happiness, values. It is so important and however much we deny the fact, our parents are an integral part of this equation. You never know, they might agree to the way you feel once you convince them, but what you need to truly focus on now is your education and secure yourself as an individual.
Also, you must discuss these things with your boyfriend and see if you both feel that happiness and stability are qualities you will be able to retain through your future. And with the way our country is changing, probably your parents would be okay with your relationship. Maybe they won’t. Think things through. Sometimes people marry out of love and that is the only thing they have but when they need to overcome things together it crumbles, because love is not enough. I suggest you now focus on education and your personal growth and see how things go.

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