The general belief is that men are devoid of emotions and are interested only in physical intimacy. I always have women complaining to me that their men are unemotional! And since am a sexologist, the thrust on the complaint is ‘unemotional during sex’.
There are some men who do not show their feelings as they misconstrue it as a sign of weakness or that by doing so, they may become a victim of vulnerability. The mysterious quality intrigues some, they say. Whatever, however, men from their childhood are taught to rein in their emotions, the man who cries is called a sissy. So in order to conform or do the accepted thing, men take to swathing their innermost feelings, moods, sentiments and emotions. And hence this permeates to all aspects of their life and persona.
There is however one aspect women need to understand about men. Men rarely commit themselves to a sexual relationship unless they really value the person, or the relationship.
A few pointers for both the sexes:
w There is nothing wrong in women expecting men to be emotional. understand that it may take time, as it is a habit of a lifetime. Patience and communication is the key.
w My dear men, there is nothing wrong in changing yourself if it pleases your
women. You don’t lose your manhood that way.
w My dear women, sometimes it’s best to let a man be. He will eventually come around.
w And finally, let go. This is for both men and women.