True love is in short supply.”
— Seher, 18. “Everyone wants to take, no one wants to give”
— Vikram, 16, and oh, so many other loud complaints.
Okay, listen up. There are two kinds of love. The first is Love Ltd. — a dubious fly by night corporation with limited liability offer, subject to terms attached, conditions apply kind of love.
The second is love unlimited, unconditional love, with zero terms and expectations, no limits. It will cherish you even if you turn back into a toad.
Which do you want? You want unlimited love for sure. Nothing commercial and conditional for your precious heart of course. What are you prepared to offer? That’s the problem. Not many are willing to offer anything except the first type. The one, which says, “I might love you, but first, I expect you to do such and such…”
Guys, you think you can woo a chick with talk, tequilas and triceps, have a quickie in the back seat of a car and push off with a text message that says “don’t u thnk v shd c othrs?” Of course you can’t. The gal will make you pay in many different ways. The sex might happen only in your head, or if it ever really happens, will be weirder, faster, and more moronic than you can ever imagine. You will have to add tons of fantasy before you tell your friends the story of your “affair”.
That doesn’t make girls any less dumb. You think of boys only when you want to have a bit of fun, when you need them to do things for you, or when your moods lift and you want to cuddle up, and think that you can find “true love,” by throwing some cute smiles and flirtatious phone calls their way?
No chance. You calculate, he calculates. You scheme, he schemes. All the two of you will ever get is a scheming calculating relationship — an affront to the word love.
You will never get anything more than you give. That’s the unalterable rule of relationships. The free lunch as such doesn’t exist. All exciting discount offers from Love Ltd. come with a fine print you will be forced to read later squinting in the half dark of a saddened and hurt heart.
On the other hand, ah, true love! If you can only open your heart with purity and say, “I will love this woman with all the energy in my being, no matter the consequences.” It’s not easy, as we are all naturally selfish, and our heart rebels at giving without taking lots in advance. Also, there is no guarantee it will succeed. You need to do this with your eyes open, and run at the first sign of trouble.
People are waiting to exploit someone who is so vulnerable and open. But that’s the only way you will forge a relationship based on purity and find true love. The world is full of worthy people who will love you back unconditionally, but you have to find one first. They are also stumbling along, holding back out of fear, waiting for a brave heart like you to turn up.
This trial by error is the only way to get the real thing, the true blue stuff most people just dream about. Want to stop scheming, stop calculating and give it a try? Have you got the courage for love unlimited?