Spend time on foreplay

Jul 24, 2013 - Dr Narayana Reddy

I’m a 40-year-old woman. Recently, my husband had the foreskin of his penis removed as a part of a religious ritual. After that I don’t get the sexual pleasure I used to get earlier. Now my husband’s penis is rough and lacks lubrication. This roughness and lack of lubrication causes me pain. Formerly, a lubricating liquid used to ooze from under the foreskin, and that used to give me immense pleasure. Now what shall we do? To avoid friction, can the foreskin be regrafted?

Most probably, you both are not lubricating sufficiently during sexual intercourse. Spend more time on foreplay, get aroused well and then try for genital sex. “Circumcision” (underwent by your husband) is not the cause. If necessary you can use a lubricant like Vagisil Lubricant.

I’m a 25-year-old married woman. Whenever I have sex, I bleed. Because of this, I’m unable to enjoy sex. I am too scared to talk to anyone about this. Why is this happening and is this a serious problem?

You may have a vaginal infection or your husband may be thrusting violently while having intercourse. Or you may be dry. You need to be examined by a doctor.

The writer is a sexologist. You can mail him at dr.narayana@deccanmail.com

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